Marriage and Baby prep

So this week in class it has been very eye opening for me. We talked about the importance of making a good wedding and a good marriage. For the wedding it is not just about the reception. The reception isn’t even really necessary. The purpose of the reception is having the community or family except the new couple. They are generally more expensive than they ever should be. You should not go into debt for it! I think that you can have a nice reception without having it be expensive. That has always been my goal and now I have research to back me up. The other important thing that we talked about is how to make the decisions about what colors and food should you have. It doesn’t really matter. What matters is this is an opportunity to make decisions as a couple. This is the first time that the couple would have the opportunity to make decisions together that will impact their lives. It should be less about what the parents want and more about what the couple wants. It really doesn’t matter what they decide but it is important to make the decision together. This is the opportunity to blend together their two families and make a new one of their own. Planning the wedding is an important bonding opportunity for the couple. Usually the wife plans the whole wedding but that is a bad choice because then the couple misses out working together and learning to make decisions as a couple. The wedding is the beginning of a new life together and the point is to start it off right. You start off right by working together from the beginning. Taking every opportunity to learn and grow closer together.

Now when the first baby comes it changes things. What can happen is that marriage satisfaction can go down when the first baby comes around. But it doesn’t have to. The thing to do is to make sure that each spouse feels involved before, during and after the birth of the baby. What can happen, is that the husband can feel abandoned by the wife and left out as she takes care of the baby. But that doesn’t have to happen. Both parents can be involved and grow closer together with each child instead of apart. The key is to continue to communicate and work tougher on everything. As a couple continues to do what they have been doing in working together then when changes come, no matter what they are, they will be able to work through them and come out better for it.

I’m no expert on the subject because I am neither married not a mother but as we discussed the topic in class it just made sense to me. I have a better understanding of what I would like to do in a marriage both in preparation and during marriage. I know that it takes a lot of work but it is completely worth it. There is nothing that you can’t work through if you want.