Troublesome Taboo

This week in class has brought up some very touchy subjects. Subjects that the world and society don’t want to talk about. Two really big ones; the roles that women and men play, the difference and similarities between them and then same gender attraction. Now I am no expert on either of these subjects but I have learned a lot this week in class. I have found that I have become more sympathetic and kind toward those who think or feel different then I do. I have also become more rooted in my own belief.

So are men and women basically the same? What one can do the other can do just as well? I don’t think so. During the women’s revolution society was fighting very strongly to have equality between men and women. On something there must be equality. Like wages and opportunities. But I do not believe that women can do everything just and well as a man can. Neither can a man do everything just as well as a women. We are different and have different strengths for a reason. We are meant to complement each other not compete against each other. With that said, we as individual should learn and gain new skills that will help us be better no matter what our gender is. I feel very strongly that everyone should have the opportunity to do anything that they would like without being discriminated against. That is what equality means to me.

Now for same gender attraction. I do not believe that people are born that way. I do believe that the feelings are very real but that the person has the choice to act upon those feelings or not. Society very much wants people to believe that it is a condition that someone is born into with no choice and that we should just accept it. But there is research that says they have not found anything that indicates that it is biologically related. Also society is trying very hard to make sure that research like that is not done or published. Which is just so said. I have come to realized that people who struggle with same gender attraction have a higher rate of depression. They are more miserable than other people; although they try their best to make it seem like they are happy. We watched this video for class about four gentleman who struggled with unwanted feelings of same gender attraction. All four of them were able to overcome those feelings and they all said that they were so much happier than they had ever been before. One of the men said that he had just broken up with his girlfriend and even though it was really hard and he was really sad, it was not sadness and depression to the extent that he felt before while he was acting on his same gender attraction feelings. Based on the experiences of these four men I have come to realize more and more that wickedness and having a disregard to the laws and commandments of God never makes a person happy. Ever! With that said I see people who struggle with same gender attraction in a different way than I did before. I feel like they are just like everyone else trying to find happiness and acceptance but looking in the wrong places. We need to reach out in love and understanding not disapproval and hate. Think about it. Don’t we all want to be loved and accepted? No one likes feeling left out. This doesn’t mean that we have to accept their actions that we don’t agree with but we can be kind about it. Kindness goes a long way and is the best way.